Resources
For the Dads
Although many of the resources listed in this guide can absolutely provide support and comfort to dads as well, there are also some really great dad-specific options available. It is not uncommon for men and women to grieve quite differently, and although everyone’s experience is individual, there are some common difficulties that are unique to the partner experience. These can lead men to feel misunderstood and isolated in their grief while also having less access to important supports and services.
The below resources are geared towards helping men reach out and tap into their grief, instead of avoiding it. Knowing there are other fathers out there trying to navigate the same challenges can be incredibly validating. Our culture permeates the idea that men need to be strong all the time, but strong does not need to mean avoidant, stoic or dismissive towards your feelings. Sometimes being strong is allowing yourself the kindness to grieve and feel.
Red Nose
Additional to the 24/7 line there is a dedicated men’s helpline available by appointment peersupport@rednose.org.au and a monthly online men’s support group... view here
Fathers of Loss Video Series
Featuring footballer Rory Sloane and musician Paul Field...view here
Men’s Line Australia
Online chat and video counselling and free 24/7 professional telephone counselling on 1300 78 99 78 ...view here
Beards of Hope
Invites all men to grow a beard over winter, then brave the shave in September, raising funds for and awareness of Bears of Hope... view here
Love From Dad
Love From Dad gives dads and non-birthing partners a space they have never truly had, but also one that maybe they didn’t know they needed... view here
Podcasts
Dad Still Standing
A pod about #babyloss by two loss fathers
Thinking Out Loud
A podcast on grief and mental health
Still Parents
Talking all things #babyloss from a male perspective
Memories of Us
Resources for the grieving man
The Worst Girl Gang Ever
S4 Ep 2 Male factor infertility
S3 Ep 8 Fathers Day
S2 Ep 22 Rhys & Leila TFMR
S2 Ep 11 & 12 Stillbirth & grief the dads perspective
The Glimmer Podcast
S2 Ep 1 A fathers perspective on life after stillbirth
High Performance
E202 Ashley Cain, Everything losing my daughter taught me
Social Media
@jasondyk
@mrashleycain
@love.from.dad
@guys_and_grief
@dadstillstanding
@liams_legacy11
@stillparentspodcast
@sad.dads.club
@themiscarriagedad
@marklemonofficial
@iamdavidkessler
@knackered_knackers
@miscarriageformen
@mattstillstanding
@beardsofhope
@bereavedfather
@avivasdad
Memory Marking and Coping Stratgies
Tattoos in honour of your baby
Jewellery with engraved initials or made from ashes
Other personalised items such as cuff links, wallet, key tags
Raising money to donate to a charity in honour of your baby
Donating blood in honour of your baby
Exercising or joining a gym for your mental health
Making time to catch up with friends
Spending quality time with your partner
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Books
Welcome To The Shit Club: A Males perspective on stillbirth, grief & loss
By Jason Dykstra
Men & Miscarriage: A dads guide to grief, relationships and healing after loss
By Aaron Gouveia
Asher My Son, a year in the life of a childless father
By Kavin Ley
A Heart That Works
By Rob Delaney
Grieving Dads: To the brink and back
By Kelly Farley & David Dicola
From Father to Father (Letters from loss dad to loss dad)
By Emily Long
Three Minus One: Stories of Parets' love and loss
By Brooke Warner & Sean Hanish
A Guide for Fathers When a Baby Dies
By Tim Nelson